Are you used to getting crazy looks when you share with others how much you loved being pregnant? Do you find yourself feeling guilty hearing others share their horror stories of morning sickness, sciatic pain, and swollen ankles, knowing that pregnancy was one of your most favorite times ever!?! If you can relate, take a moment and lend your ear. I am the mother of four children and a very recent first-time surrogate. I delivered a beautiful, healthy baby girl in November 2024 and had the honor of making another woman a MOM. My eyes tear up sharing this experience because, as you know, the fulfillment that comes with Motherhood is unique and runs deep. Few things in life compare, if we are being honest.
My youngest son will be 13 soon, and since he was born, I made the comment, “I want to be a surrogate.” For11 years, my husband was unsure about the process and shook his head when I would mention it. After all, the thought of your wife carrying a baby that isn’t yours is a big concept to wrap your head around! But after over a decade, he had a change in heart and we began this amazing journey. I’ll never forget the look on his face when he uttered the words, “We can talk about it!” This was a very different response than anything my inquiries had ever been met with. I knew that something was going to come of this! When I asked him why he changed his mind, he said that it had literally been over a decade of this being something that I wanted to do and he knew it meant a lot to me. Now, 7 months postpartum, we lay in bed at night and look at each other asking, “Did we really do that??” But we did, in fact, do that, and there is a happy family on the Upper East Coast because of our decision to jump into the world of surrogacy! Surrogacy, for me, was deeply fulfilling. I am a giver by nature and enjoy “meeting needs.” The thought of a woman being told she could never be a mother felt heavy. Knowing the ease, and even joy, that I experience when pregnant, I knew this was something I could do, something that would make a lasting difference in someone’s life. Being a surrogate was an amazing adventure, a very unique chapter in my life. My youngest daughter is quite the comedian and found great humor in telling her friends I was expecting and that it wasn’t her Father’s (insert facepalm!) I am sure I was the topic of rooms that I was not in and the number of times I heard the comment, “Oh, I could never!” was too large to count. This journey opened my eyes to a world I had no idea existed. My husband and I always conceived with great ease, but for many couples, that simply is not the case. Surrogacy builds families. I did it, and I invite you to consider doing it too.
Considering Becoming a Surrogate? Your Journey Could Change a Life
If you’ve ever felt the pull to become a surrogate or are simply curious about the process, I encourage you to explore it further. Motherhood Center’s surrogacy matching services are here to support women who feel called to help create families. Your journey could truly change a life—just like mine did.
